Finding your soulmate.

Some people enhance and amplify the love within you. Others do the opposite.  Who do you  want to marry?

Ask yourself two questions.
1. Am I more loving and caring than I normally am when I am around him/her ?
The answer to this question will help you choose whether this individual is a seasonal friend or a long-term relationship.

2. Am I more of my true self when I am around him/her?
If you are your best self around this person, e,g, funnier, happier, and more relaxed, then this individual reflects and amplifies the love you have within.
However, if you constantly concerned about the future when you are around this person, then it's important that you reflect within to find out if you want to continue your relationship with him/her.

Use this exercise as a gauge to help you navigate your love life.

Best of luck.

Frustration

Frustration is a doorway to a clear answer. Generally, frustration is the result of fear of something or someone. However, until you feel a sense of urgency (frustration), you may continue to ignore the reality that is hitting you hard in the head.
It is so easy to act out the frustration by yelling at others. Also, you may choose to allow the frustration to mask itself as depression. The hard part is to give permission to frustration to have it's hold on you for a while. Give it space to reside in your body. 
Frustration has a purpose. It's trying to tell you something. It could be trying to tell you that you need help right now (i.e. ask someone for help) or you need to slow down (i.e. rest). So, stop fighting the frustration, and understand that this uncomfortable feeling holds value.

Values

Ask yourself the following questions and write down your answers.

What is of value to you?
What are your inherent values?
Are your values in sync with your partner's values?
If so, are you able to enjoy the similarities between you and your partner?
If not, are you able to enjoy the differences between you and your partner?
Values are interchangable with time. As we grow, your values will change and transform based on your experiences.
Therefore, do not automatically dismiss your partner's values. You may disagree with your partner on a particular value but allow your heart to be open to the disagreement. You will realize that your values are not as dissimilar as you imagined them to be.

God-thoughts

Each and every thought that enters your mind is placed there by God. However, you are given a choice. You can choose to focus on positive, loving and nonjudgmental thoughts OR negative, fearful and judgmental thoughts.  Your feelings give you a clear and direct indication about which choice you are making. So, the next time you are angry or upset with your partner realize that the thoughts that you are experiencing have been placed there by God. Now, it's your choice to give the negative thoughts more power or to invite positive and loving thoughts.  

Your ego and your relationship cannot coexist.

To feel connected to your partner, your desires have to be in sync with your significant others' desires. This does not mean that both of you want exactly the same things from life. It does mean that both of you are willing to enhance and refine yourselves to preserve the intangible substance between the two of you...the relationship. The relationship has a momentum and an energy of its own. As long as the relationship's needs are met, the relationship thrives. As soon as it is missing one of the key ingredients, the relationship enters a phase of deprivation. If this occurs, both of you have a choice- to let go of your ego and become something greater than you are OR give in to the ego by focusing on your own needs.
Of course there are exceptions to this principle. This principle does not apply to relationships where there is danger of immediate physical violence, a history of substance abuse or recent infidelity.  In these situations, the ego has already taken over the relationship. In such cases a caring presence such as a therapist can help heal and recreate the relationship. This caring presence can help people rise above their ego to a place of acceptance, change and forgiveness.

Value the God within.

You may struggle with depression, anxiety and low self-esteem. This is a simple case of not feeling 'good enough.' All of these symptoms are the results of the same disorder: diminishing the value of your Soul or the "God Within." As soon as you change your attitude about who you think you are: your body, mind thoughts and feelings and focus on who you really are: your Soul, things will shift for you. The symptoms of anxiety, insomnia, depression and insecurity fade away.  Your relationships will start to shine. Giving and receiving love will become effortless for you.

You can call the "God within" by any other name, Soul, Spirit, inner Voice, True Self. As long as you are able to shift your focus to that intangible essence, you will experience yourself as more centered and compassionate.

Can you experience faith...without giving it a name?

Do you feel the joy of being alive every morning when you wake up? Does your heart sing every time you see a dog wagging its tail? Or a baby smiling? Does the miracle of life amaze you? If so, you are aligned with the Universe. Continue doing what you are doing  because you are on the right path.
If you would love to experience the miracle of life, intend it, want it. desire it and it'll show up. You can use a couple of pointers to help you out. Spend 5 minutes in nature every day. Don't just glance at the trees, become one with them. This is a quick and easy way to feel connected to nature.
Or spend 5 minutes in silence. Before you get out of your car, just sit. If you don't have enough time to do that, just drive in silence. Let your phone ring. Just allow yourself to experience silence.  Experiencing silence is Experiencing nature  is Experiencing faith. Try it out.